What is Super-pleaser Fatigue?
“Super-pleaser Fatigue” is a term I made up to describe the burnout that comes from being a chronic people-pleaser. Many of us know that feeling: constantly saying “yes” to others, even when we really want to say “no.” Maybe you’re agreeing to favors, taking on extra work, or helping out, even when you’re too busy or already overwhelmed. Deep down, you might even feel resentment or frustration toward those requests. But pushing your own needs aside to keep everyone else happy is exhausting in ways we don’t always realize.
Why People-Pleasing Leads to Exhaustion
Each time you compromise your own boundaries or comfort, it takes a toll on you mentally and physically. Constantly putting others first can leave you feeling tired, angry, and resentful. People-pleasers often find it uncomfortable to say “no” because they fear disappointing others or facing conflict. But here’s the thing: carrying this weight can drain your energy in a major way. And if people do get upset when you set a boundary, remember, their reaction is not your responsibility.
What You Can Do to Stop Superpleaser Fatigue
The first step to overcoming super-pleaser fatigue is recognizing that your needs matter. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, a family member, or even your kids. If you’re constantly depleted, you can’t fully take care of anyone else. Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.
Practicing saying “no” can feel uncomfortable at first, but each time you do it, it gets a little easier. People might seem surprised or even a little annoyed, but they’ll eventually accept it. Protecting your own energy is worth it.
Looking Ahead!
Stay tuned for another post where I’ll talk about the 6th hidden cause of nonphysical fatigue.
To dive deeper into the underlying causes of fatigue, check out our last blog post on unresolved shame and watch the previous YouTube video—both packed with insights to help you reclaim your energy and restore your balance!